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Wedding Day Spectacles

Wedding Day Spectacles

If you walk into your local discount store this weekend, you’ll likely already be barraged by piles of school supplies and signs shouting “Sale! Sale! Sale!” even though the beach towels and summer fun items lay only an aisle away. It feels like artillery shells pounding your sense of timing, like Christmas shopping at Halloween. The world doesn’t want to wait for the next season. It keeps pushing and pushing the consumer to think ahead and fret about what’s coming next.

As homeschoolers, we usually have the opportunity to set our own schedules and decide for ourselves when to start the school year. We revel in our flexibility, what with our four day school week, grocery shopping at 10 a.m., and our random week off in the middle of October. Somehow though, we still become slaves to the calendars Walmart and Target set.

Don’t they know it’s still summer (A.K.A. Wedding Season)?

It’s hard to go one summer without attending at least one. Aunt Susie drinks a little too much, Grandma does an embarrassing Macarena (how on Earth is that song still popular?), and no one wants to talk about earlier when Bridezilla freaked out, saying her carefully orchestrated day was ruined when the flowers were put in the wrong spot.

During Wedding Season, James K.A. Smith says, “Our interest is in the spectacle of the wedding.” A ka-gillion dollars are spent in the wedding industry every year for crazy, outlandish weddings that will be over in one day.

Spectacle is the perfect word for the day, isn’t it? It’s actually a fairly rare occurrence to attend a wedding that isn’t all about the show. You remember them well; those are the weddings where you just know the bride and groom are prepared for marriage, not just for the wedding day.

For those of us old enough to be schooling our own kids, or even thinking about it, our own spectacle is a little worn. We’re in the trenches now. Maybe we’ve weathered a job change, a move, a death in the family, or a combination of those. The honeymoon phase is becoming less reality and more memory. That doesn’t mean we love our spouses less, it just means we’ve gotten down to the hard work of life.

The truth is: despite what the retail world wants you to think, there still is plenty of summer left. This means you have plenty of time to take a day to spend with your spouse, devoted to one another and in service of one another. We know by now that marriage is not the same spectacle the wedding day is. Marriage is absolute joy, hard work, a blessing, a challenge, but above all, marriage is a marathon not a sprint. Even a marathon needs refreshment from the water table every now and then.

So here’s your call to action this week: Choose a day, spend it with your spouse, do something great with and for one another in alignment with the spirit of marriage, not the spectacle of the wedding day.

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I’m Rhiannon.

You can call me Rhi for short (as in “rejoice”). I’m a fiercely independent homeschooling mom of five, a Navy wife of 13 years, and a creator of various things: articles, a semi-regular newsletter, quilts, furniture, and the occasional knitted scarf. This is the site where I write about our homeschool journey and news and happenings in the homeschool world. more about me.

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  • One of the things I most love about #homeschooling is the freedom it allows us to love books. It is 9:30am. We just finished breakfast after getting up late because last night we had troop meetings for our scouting groups. The kids are all well-fed and well-rested. But before we start on reading the books I’ve assigned them, we’re taking some time to read our own choices.
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When I was a kid, we had plenty of books in the house, but I never really read for pleasure. It didn’t matter that my mom was a librarian and teacher. I wanted to be outside. I thought reading was for school hours and school work.
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I carried these thoughts through high school and college, where I read a lot of really great books, but not many that I chose for myself.
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My kids will have a totally different experience. Not saying mine was bad, but I am saying that I missed out on worlds or great books and thoughts from great authors in my younger years that I am only discovering now as an adult: the middle books of Narnia, Anne of Green Gables, Arthur Conan Doyle, Winnie the Pooh, Beatrix Potter, Harry Potter, and many more.
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My kids have the TIME FREEDOM to get to know the thoughts of authors they CHOOSE. I don’t care how you school, all kids deserve this opportunity. All kids DESERVE to believe that books can be FUN and INTERESTING and MYSTERIOUS and LOVELY.
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What can you do today as a homeschooling/private schooling/public schooling parent to help your kids love reading? Make no mistake: if ALL our kids take from their educations is a habit of reading widely and enjoying it, they will stand a great chance of becoming great adult humans.
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#homeschool #homeschooling #family #amreading #shakespeare #bravewriterlifestyle
  • Fact: The #Navy wife life will kill you if you don’t find support somehow.
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Fact: That support will almost 100% of the time be the females around you.
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Fact: Our whole family got the flu literally THE DAY Jake’s boat pulled out.
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Fact: This little @theglorioustable ditty about crashing our proverbial banana trucks posted the same day. God has a sense of humor. Link also in profile. (https://theglorioustable.com/2020/01/banana-truck-out-of-control-devotional/)
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The fact that I am just now getting around to posting about it tells you the extent to which the flu knocked me on my ass. I was in bed for three days straight. I am NEVER this sick.
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Fact: If it weren’t for strong, kind, generous WOMEN around me, I probably would have ended up in the hospital and my kids may or may not be alive. The menfolk care too, they just weren’t here. Couldn’t support. Had their own work to do. The mission does not stop for sick families.
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Find yourself a tribe if you want to survive. You HAVE to have someone to call. Even if, like me, it’s your mom (who will--wisely--tell you to ask for local help even though you don’t want to be a bother.) I needed prayers, sure, but more than that, I needed local people to literally come to my house and feed my kids and put food in my fridge, be here while I went to the doctor, and put my kids to bed when I was too sick to stay awake a minute longer. A virtual community CANNOT do those things. It can try, but a local community has power a virtual community will never have.
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  • Morning Time Details! E. (12), S. (almost 8), and L. (6). Our Morning Time morphs as the kids grow and change. It usually includes a combination of memory work and reading aloud. We try to cover a WHOLE LOT of things: Shakespeare, Bible, poetry, catechism, hymns, timeline, art study, composer study, and Ambleside selections for nature study, tales, and church history. This term I’m adding Plutarch.
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The hard part is figuring out where I want to aim, with the 5-year gap between E. and S., and then L. being a newbie to full-on school. Having moved twice in 2019, I nixed MT and just focused on individual work. That came with costs. Shakespeare, Plutarch, art study, and composer study suffered. Memory work barely happened at all. I was BUSY. We missed out on discussing things together. Now that we’re settled, it’s time to restart MT.
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This term I’ve decided to aim Shakespeare and Plutarch at the oldest, while the girls listen in and do handwriting/drawing/fine motor. I won’t ask them for much narration. Our reading schedule for these is AMBITIOUS. Maybe crazy. Then we’ll do all the memory & read aloud stuff that suits everyone. These lessons are SHORT. Then E. will go do his individual work while I read aloud w/ just the girls.
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Also, “Morning Time” is a misnomer, considering we break it up throughout the day. It should really be called Morning/Lunch/Nap Time. I need a new name. Circle Time? Except we don’t sit in a circle. Together school? Except we’re together doing school all day. I don’t think English has the word I’m looking for. Maybe Tertulia or Salon?
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Our actual coursework is: the Scottish Play, Plutarch is Alexander the Great’s life, our artist is Gustave Courbet, composer is Paganini, Bible memory is Psalm 46, Hymn is Jesus, Savior, Pilot Me, read alouds will rotate from Burgess Bird Book, Trial and Triumph, Blue Fairy Book, Voyage of the Dawn Treader, Vanderbeekers, & picture books. Timeline is from Classical Conversations. Poems are Charge of the Light Brigade, Winter Night by Teasdale, and The Land of Nod.
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Whew! It’s gonna be a fun term! What do you guys do for Morning Time?

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